Couple Counselling
In couples counselling it is necessary at first for me to build up a picture of what has been happening in the relationship such as:
Looking at what each bring to the relationship, such as your personalities, your relationship histories and your experience of childhood.
Examining what triggered the problems you are now experiencing. Maybe this was a specific event, or series of events, a change in circumstances or perhaps there has been a build up of small resentments that have lead you to where you are today.
Looking at what your individual needs are from the relationship and to what extent they are being neglected.
Examining your communication skills with each other, and at the levels of honesty and intimacy within the relationship.
It is possible to transform a flagging relationship and even bring it to a level that has not been experienced before. The main factor that determines the outcome of relationship counselling is the willingness of both partners to participate honestly and passionately in the therapy sessions. Don't underestimate the level of commitment needed.
Occasionally people decide that they cannot go on with the relationship, in which case, I can help you to end your relationship in as good a way as possible so that you can both go on with the process of parting with as little pain as possible.
Like any other type of therapy, couples therapy can be very painful and it can take a lot of hard work from both parties. I recommend at first you have between six to twelve sessions.
Remember that problems do not start overnight, nor are they generally resolved overnight.
It is so important in couples therapy that you are both honest, and speak your mind. I am not easily shocked or embarrassed and it is not my job to judge you. So you have my permission to say anything you like in front of me.
At first these sessions will be weekly but later they can be spaced fortnightly or even every 3 weeks - as long as the process we agree continues to take place at home.
